Remember and Celebrate

Category: Grief/Sibling/Adult sibling loss

April 27, 2014

Psalm 34:8, Hard Hats, Safety Glasses and Work Boots

Psalm 32:8 I will guide and teach you the way you should go. I will give you good advice and watch over you. (written FebrUary 2009) It's been 3 1/2 years since my brother GORDON got lost in the mountains and died of hypothermia before he was found. And I have been going through a...

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February 28, 2014

you knew my path

My friend always told me “God doesn’t waste suffering  . . .  if we cooperate.” To Cooperate with God:  to struggle, to keep an open, honest communication with Him about all that concerns me and the ones I love. I wrote the following letter to God 5 years after my brother got lost in the...

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February 18, 2014

Quantifying Grief? Don’t.

What do we do with our suffering? Joining again with Diana Trautwein’s Blog – Last week Diana  opened the door to a series-within-the-series, a set of questions that touch on the Big Topic of suffering. This week’s question jumps in a little deeper: It reminded me of  something really important I learned from my mentor/spiritual director...

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February 10, 2014

The gift of tears – is there room for them?

Diana Trautwein asks this question in her “Living the Questions ” series on her blog,  Just Wondering this week.  This week I am linking my post to hers.  There has been a great discussion there in her online community.  You might want to spend some time there. Yes, Yes, there is room for my tears....

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August 28, 2013

Be still my soul – even in change

Oh how difficult stillness can be, through life changes, yet this is the only place peace can be found. On this day, I am still as I remember. On this day, August 28, 1959,  a tiny baby sister was born, and being too frail for life in this world, she also died the same day....

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February 22, 2013

An Ash Wednesday Gift

An Ash Wednesday post This year on Ash Wednesday, I rejoiced in an “out of season bloom” from the cactus on my windowsill as God’s gift of Life and Beauty to me on a day that is to remind us of our mortality.   2012 was my first experience of living the Church year within...

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September 27, 2012

He will Carry Me

He will carry me  . . . . . This photo taken in 20o7 when my son took his son to his first Cubs game shouts the words “He will carry me!”  Mark Shulz sings it best in his song “He Will Carry Me.”  It’s always the song that starts playing in my mind when I see...

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September 11, 2012

Rest for the Mind and comfort

August 2009:  I am exhausted, in need of comfort, having spent the past two months intensely caring for mom and dad.  At last,  a chance to get away for a few quiet days at our favorite place.  Christmas Mountain, Wisconsin I’ll  catch up, process, plan, get organized.  As I share with Galen how exhausted I...

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August 31, 2012

grieving without knowing

Here is an excerpt from my one of my digital books “I Will Remember and Celebrate God’s Goodness with My Family” My little sister would have been 53 on Tuesday. Living only 7 hours, too little to survive, she came and went on the same day. Again I am caught by surprise by how deeply...

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June 1, 2012

To Those Who Would Keep on Comforting Me Part 2

In “To Those Who Would Comfort Me” which I wrote right after the first anniversary of my brother’s death,  (read it HERE)  referenced the things I noticed in the early days of my grief journey. The following is from a Sept. 2010 entry in my journal as I was approaching 5th anniversary of my brother’s death. (If you...

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