Remember and Celebrate

Category: Grief/Sibling/Adult sibling loss

August 24, 2011

“No one Understands” guest post

Today I read a post by Caleb Wilde  a 6th generation funeral director and friend of my son, Todd.  I was struck by the truth of his post and I especially like his ending.  Thank you Caleb Probably one of the more insensitive things you can say to the bereaved at a funeral is, “I...

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August 5, 2011

“Bye! C’Ya!”

Bye Cya August,  2008 it hit me . . . three years ago, this day was the last time I saw my brother. I had asked him to come to Illinois.  Mom had been sick that summer; we almost lost her. She was out of the hospital, but still not well enough for me to...

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July 4, 2011

Radio Controlled Model Planes, My Life and God

The model airplanes are flying again,           diving low, at times skimming the lake           and rising again,           flipping, rolling,           banking to the left and then to the right,           at times simply flying through the air. I think of how the safety of the plane depends on           the skill of...

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May 5, 2011

It’s “the continual presence of an absence”

  I created and framed these pics for my mom for Mothers’ Day, 2006, 5 months after she had lost her third child and I had lost my last sibling: “The world loves closure, loves a thing that can, as they say,be gotten through. This is why it comes as a great surprise to find...

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February 27, 2011

When It Feels Like Winter, even if it’s not

“Waiting on God requires the willingness to bear uncertainty, to carry within oneself the unanswered question.” Elizabeth Elliot This is a post from two years ago, but it certainly fits into the theme of the Eternal Winter More than that, it fits this time of my life where there is much uncertainty/unanswered questions I gaze...

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January 7, 2011

Birthdays, Rice Krispy Bars & and Missing A Brother

Birthdays, Rice Krispy Bars & Missing A Brother Hey Gordon, I’m sitting here at the Garden Café, eating a marshmellow bar – in your honor. I am sure you’d say it’s not as good as Carol’s and you’d probably be right. I can still picture you sitting at your counter in the kitchen enjoying every bite of...

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October 20, 2010

The “October-it’s-almost-November” Feeling

Today, I share words I jotted down a few Octobers after the November 8th anniversary of Gordon’s death. For the first few years, this time of year just kind of caught up with me before I “remembered.” Now I know . . . I welcome and plan for this time of remembering by building in...

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September 12, 2010

Birthdays are for Remembering

If this is the first time you are reading my blog, take a moment to read “my story” (see above) which will help you understand the context of my entries on this blog Today I am thinking about a brown-eyed little boy – born 53 years ago today – I think about what he would...

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September 6, 2010

Making A Way

As I supported and cared for a friend who had lost her son, I also was comforted as I thought of how God had been with me.  I sent the following to her: In the summer of 2000, Somewhere in Alaska, we took this picture. As I looked at it one day years later, I...

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August 30, 2010

To Those Who Would Comfort Me

Just a few days ago, someone told me her friend’s brother died and we talked about how to comfort someone who has lost someone they love. I wrote this back in the fall of 2006 about a year after Gordon died of hypothermia, lost in the mountains of Montana. To Those Who Would Comfort Me...

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