Remember and Celebrate

Category: Days of Loss

November 9, 2015

A Widow’s Reflections – an exceprt

(Carol and Gordon, April 5, 2005) On this, the 10th anniversary of her husband’s death,  my sister-in-law, Carol,  has agreed to share an excerpt here from her recently written series of reflections on the first year  of being a widow.  Yeah, it gets confusing, both of us being Carol and all.  (Gordon died of hypothermia...

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November 8, 2014

The most wasted of days is the one without laughter!

Remembering my brother, Gordon Eugene Longenecker, on the 9th anniversary of his death at age 49.  Nov. 6th I wrote about The Gift of Fall in a Season of Grief. Today I continue the remembering with smiles.   It’s been  nine years since losing him and it seems like a good time to remember the Gordon we all...

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November 15, 2011

Before and After P.S. An Intentional Journey

  My REFUGE:  My cousin Janet sends me an email on either Wednesday or Thursday of that week.  I can still remember sitting at Carol’s computer reading her email to me.  It was a short email . . . simply sharing verse that helped her when her dad died.   I showed it to Dad...

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November 14, 2011

Before and After Day 8: Coming Home & an Airline Angel

It’s Monday Morning and Mom and Dad and I are flying home.   Galen stays behind to help Carol with business matters.  A week ago they were searching for him.  Now we are headed home after the Memorial Service.   As I sit there I notice…… The guy in the front of me has hair like Gordon’s, that...

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November 13, 2011

Before and After, Day 7: Remembering & Comfort – A memorial Service

        Carol’s (Gordon’s wife) thoughts on the Memorial Service November 12, 2005: God gave me the music one  special song at a time. * Right after the phone call on my way home from Missoula, I heard “I Can Only Imagine” and knew the situation was bad and I might need that...

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November 11, 2011

Before and After, Day 6 part 2: guest post “Between Life and Death” by Todd Hiestand

  In Between Death & Life – a blog written by my son Todd on November 11, 2005. It’s not supposed to be this way. You are not supposed to watch your grandparents stand over the coffin of their youngest child. You are not supposed to listen to the cries of your mother as she mourns...

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November 11, 2011

Before and After, Day 6, part 1: People, Flowers and Food

This evening we will be at the funeral home greeting friends and family. People and flowers and food flowed into the house. This white flower was one of the first and the most striking in appearance and fragrance. Notice the new Testament and Psalms. Carol and I “lived” in the Psalms over the next months God’s...

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November 10, 2011

Before and after, Day 5, part 2 – Planning A Memorial Service

Today has been difficult. I cry what seems to be buckets of tears. And then Galen reminds me that while this is a pit, it is not a bottomless pit because of Jesus. This comforts me and gives me hope. It is surreal planning the memorial service with Pastor Vern. One of the songs Carol...

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November 10, 2011

Before and After, Day 5, part 1: Picking Up His things

I go with Carol to pick up his “things.” Four days later and they’re still soaking wet. Soaked – everything, even his wallet. Carol looks through everything, her hands shaking. “He didn’t even eat his Skittles.” There are wet matches, his wallet, and a wad of keys. His shoes and clothing . . . soaked....

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November 9, 2011

Before and After, Day 4 part 2: Paul, Collin and God’s Sovereignty

  a lot happened this day.  The two visits with Collin and Paul were key as we begin to process what has happened.   As we left home, I grabbed a few choir CD’s. “Rescue” a song we learned just a couple months ago was one I took, thinking I might want to hear it.  After visiting...

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