Remember and Celebrate

October 20, 2017

Joy and Sadness – “Inside Out” Movie Got Right

Sunset at Lake Opeka, Des Plaines, IL

It’s sunset time here at the Lake. Your Creation, Lord, does its work. (I talked about that HERE last weekend.) The chatter in my head fades away. And in the silence, my friend, Sadness, cautiously peeks out to see if it’s safe.

I’ve been ignoring her - much of today spent in what I now recognize as aimless activity, all the while hoping I’ll get something “useful” done. It didn’t really work. It never does. As I sit with Sadness, I am aware of November 8th approaching, the 12th anniversary of my brother’s death. 

death, accompanied by 
So. Many. Losses.
  
shaking of my faith
times when I wondered
what was true 
what wasn’t true

questions about prayer
and why I should even bother

feeling weak because I can’t be
strong like my mom and dad
fear of being too much
with too much grief
for much too long.
 
loneliness while surrounded by love of family 
yet they cannot replace the ones I’ve
lost.

emergence of long-denied 
grief over previous losses
exhaustion that comes with mourning

healing
scabs form
pull loose
healing
until it’s mostly scabs,
until Fall comes
leading to November

some days - feeling I’ll grieve like this 
forever - all the while knowing 
it won’t feel 
this way 
every day
all day
and it never does 
anymore

Sadness, now a friend
comes more often in the Fall
when I’m quiet
in a place as this 
right now in the quiet 
setting of the sun
 
tears come unhindered
for I have learned 
to shut them off is denying 
what is true
better to let them come

* * *
Folding up my lawn chair
I gaze again at the setting sun
and return to my life
a life which brings me much joy.
 
The movie “Inside Out” had it right.  
Joy and Sorrow can co-exist. 
It’s best to embrace them both.

11 Comments

11 responses to “Joy and Sadness – “Inside Out” Movie Got Right”

  1. Lidia Hu says:

    Beautiful. You words flow and the story comes to life.

  2. Linda Malone says:

    Sorry I didn’t get a chance to meet your brother. Looking forward to our family reunion in Heaven!

  3. Donna says:

    This is beautiful. It flows so well-I especially like your closing with the image of folding your lawn chair, and a statement about Joy

    • carol says:

      As I was writing this, it came to me at the end it was just like in the movie. I need to watch it again now with new understanding. I remember how in the movie, Joy kept trying to push Sadness away and it bothered me! It should have, but they got it right.

  4. LoisBailey says:

    Carol, I am in a very hard place now. Sweetheart is hospitalized. Lost him to Alzheimer. My heart bleeds. My Lord knows and cares and I want Him to comfort me.
    Lois Bailey

    • carol says:

      Dear Lois, thank you for being there and sharing your deep grief and pain. I will be in touch by email. Dad would want to go and visit you if he were here and able.

  5. Jody Collins says:

    “Better to let them come.” Tears are so very healing, Carol, and yes, joy and sorrow are not exclusive of each other. Thank you for thud

  6. Emma P Bilyk says:

    beautiful. your heart that comes through in this post. and the writing God has gifted you with.

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