Category: Days of Loss

(Start HERE  for full “Before and After” series) I go with Carol to pick up his “things.” Four days later and they’re still soaking wet. (Yes, those are his shoes.) Soaked – everything, even his wallet. Carol looks through everything, her hands shaking. “He didn’t even eat his Skittles.” There are wet matches, his wallet, and…

(Start HERE  for full “Before and After” series ) Go HERE for Day 4 Part 1 ___________________ a lot happened this day.  The two visits with Collin and Paul were key as we begin to process what has happened.  As we left home, I grabbed a few choir CD’s. “Rescue” a song we learned just a couple…

(Start HERE  for full “Before and After” series) There are several key elements of this day and I will post in 2 parts. Today is “A Visit to A Funeral Home” Sitting on “The Thinking Couch” November 9, 2005:   I have been dreading this.  I have done this before and I don’t want to do it again….

(Start HERE  for full “Before and After” series) Tuesday, November 8, 2005 – He’s gone 4:30 am Carol calls to tell us things do not look good and they are airlifting him to Billings. She says we should plan to come and I wonder why. I still don’t “believe” but for the first time I am thinking…

(Start “Before and After” series HERE) I remember a few vignette’s from the day, but very little of how I felt.  Mostly I was numb. Contemplating the possibilities was  too terrible. I wake up – How did I sleep – denial? I am to facilitate a small conference call at 1:00 pm, but I put off…

It’s the 7th anniversary of an event that became a “before and after” event in my life. Seven years ago my brother, Gordon, was hunting in the mountains, got lost, and was not found before he died of hypothermia. As this website is a place for me to record my journey for me and for…