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October 2, 2011

The “Blessing Journey” – Lessons Learned Part 1

How she loved her man!

It’s been two years since mom died.  Earlier in the spring of 2009, when I was so overwhelmed with the care of my parents, and feeling very alone I read an article in “O Magazine” that gave me hope. One of the suggestions had to do with making sure I had “a village” to help me. It was a timely article and recommended reading:  http://www.oprah.com/health/Caring-for-Aging-Parents-Martha-Beck-Advice/2

Here it is – 10 things I have learned on the “Blessing Journey (in no particular order)

1.    Caring for an elderly parent takes a “village.” Know who they are and call on them.

2.   I can’t predict how I’ll react. I have to accept what I feel, be willing to stay self-aware .

3.   Losing someone by degrees is different from losing someone suddenly. I was afraid it would be the same.

4.   Knowing how I receive comfort is important. Asking for it is even more important.

5.   Letting people help me, even inconvenience themselves for me, is good. I can’t make the choice as to when someone else is too busy to help me.

6.   When I let others help me or the one I love, it will bless them as much as it blesses me.

7.  It’s important to let others do the things I can’t do, so I can do what only I can do.

8.  I need to accept that even though this doesn’t fit into the plan I had for this time of my life, it IS the plan GOD has for me now. And perhaps sharing my journey can help others.

9.   Make sure conversations are about what is really on my heart, so that I don’t sidetracked, and focus on external circumstances.

How she loved those babies!

10.  Death is not pleasant – we were created for life, not death, but no matter how it happens, God is Good and He is Present.

Many of you have been and are there – what have you learned?  I am sure there is more!

Click HERE for Part two of the Blessing Journey

6 Comments

6 responses to “The “Blessing Journey” – Lessons Learned Part 1”

  1. Jose Rivera says:

    Thank you!

  2. Elaine Clymer says:

    I love this list. I want to give it to a friend who does not want to ask anyone to help her when she has to have surgery. I wish I could be there for her but she is too far away.

  3. carol steinmetz says:

    please add me to your blog list.

  4. Carolyn says:

    Good thoughts altho I am saddened that the church cannot minister like this but secular icons like Oprah can speak more poignantly to certain issues than our own fellowship. I have experienced this…just noting. Loved the pictures of your parents…that is how I remember them. Love from a fellow traveler. Carolyn

  5. carol says:

    Sometimes it was easy to “fight” with Galen over some detail which may or may not have been important, when in reality i was scared to death about what was happening and so afraid i would not be able to do what needed to be done. Or getting mad at mom when she was not being reasonable, probably because she was just as scared as me. it’s easier to focus on stuff when sometimes we needed to talk about feelings.

  6. Dawn says:

    Could you explain number nine? They were all so helpful- I want to know what that one meant!
    Thank you for sharing. The pictures are am sweet tribute to what a loving mom and Grandmommy she was. Of course, she raised you, which means she was pretty special. 😉

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