It’s been two years since mom died. Earlier in the spring of 2009, when I was so overwhelmed with the care of my parents, and feeling very alone I read an article in “O Magazine” that gave me hope. One of the suggestions had to do with making sure I had “a village” to help me. It was a timely article and recommended reading: http://www.oprah.com/health/Caring-for-Aging-Parents-Martha-Beck-Advice/2
Here it is – 10 things I have learned on the “Blessing Journey (in no particular order)
1. Caring for an elderly parent takes a “village.” Know who they are and call on them.
2. I can’t predict how I’ll react. I have to accept what I feel, be willing to stay self-aware .
3. Losing someone by degrees is different from losing someone suddenly. I was afraid it would be the same.
4. Knowing how I receive comfort is important. Asking for it is even more important.
5. Letting people help me, even inconvenience themselves for me, is good. I can’t make the choice as to when someone else is too busy to help me.
6. When I let others help me or the one I love, it will bless them as much as it blesses me.
7. It’s important to let others do the things I can’t do, so I can do what only I can do.
8. I need to accept that even though this doesn’t fit into the plan I had for this time of my life, it IS the plan GOD has for me now. And perhaps sharing my journey can help others.
9. Make sure conversations are about what is really on my heart, so that I don’t sidetracked, and focus on external circumstances.
10. Death is not pleasant – we were created for life, not death, but no matter how it happens, God is Good and He is Present.
Many of you have been and are there – what have you learned? I am sure there is more!
Click HERE for Part two of the Blessing Journey