Remember and Celebrate

Category: Grief/Sibling/Adult sibling loss

September 14, 2016

Perfectly Formed

Happy birthday to Brenda Jane. August 28, 1959 – August 28, 1959 ********** August 28th, fifty-seven years ago: I am 11 years old. A baby is coming, but the Doctor has been saying there is probably something wrong with the baby and if Mother “miscarries” it will be “God’s way of taking care of it.”...

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November 27, 2015

Thanksgiving 2015 – Shout to the Lord!

My husband and I were alone on Thanksgiving. “It’s all good,” I told someone yesterday. “Our children and 10 grandchildren are with their other families. Well, one is still in Ethiopia. We expect to have her here with us soon.” And I missed my mom and my dad. They are gone now, as are my...

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November 9, 2015

A Widow’s Reflections – an exceprt

(Carol and Gordon, April 5, 2005) On this, the 10th anniversary of her husband’s death,  my sister-in-law, Carol,  has agreed to share an excerpt here from her recently written series of reflections on the first year  of being a widow.  Yeah, it gets confusing, both of us being Carol and all.  (Gordon died of hypothermia...

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November 6, 2014

The Gift of Fall in a Season of Loss

“First you pursue us with blood maples and tease with your decadent, hazy light. Then you weave through the woods like the scent of decay that surrounds us with every step. Light bathes from above, so plentiful that not even the blood maples or the honey oaks can soak it all up before it overflows...

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August 9, 2014

Something profound . . .

There is something profound about being the only one left in one's biological family of origin. Some years I think about it more than others, but this past week I have very aware that nine years ago my brother and I spent our last day together. It was August 5,2005 - two months and 27...

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June 7, 2014

Today’s Experience

Losing an elderly parent "when it's time" . . . It’s a strange unpredictable mix of feelings It's hard to file these feelings into folders marked Grief Gladness Relief Sadness It's more like the "curious blend" I referenced here on this blog a couple of weeks ago the day after my dad died. Confusing at...

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May 3, 2014

The Lord Comforts His People

Across this valley, on an old logging road, my brother lost his life, his body giving into the effects of deadly hypothermian before he was found. This scripture speaks of the comfort God’s presence brings to the deep grief that comes from deep loss and the compassion he has toward us. At his memorial service...

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April 27, 2014

Psalm 34:8, Hard Hats, Safety Glasses and Work Boots

Psalm 32:8 I will guide and teach you the way you should go. I will give you good advice and watch over you. (written FebrUary 2009) It's been 3 1/2 years since my brother GORDON got lost in the mountains and died of hypothermia before he was found. And I have been going through a...

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February 28, 2014

you knew my path

  Linking up with Emily Weiringa Imperfect Prose – stories of brokeness and redemption   My friend always told me “God doesn’t waste suffering  . . .  if we cooperate.” To Cooperate with God:  to struggle, to keep an open, honest communication with Him about all that concerns me and the ones I love. I...

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February 18, 2014

Quantifying Grief? Don’t.

What do we do with our suffering? Joining again with Diana Trautwein’s Blog – Last week Diana  opened the door to a series-within-the-series, a set of questions that touch on the Big Topic of suffering. This week’s question jumps in a little deeper: It reminded me of  something really important I learned from my mentor/spiritual director...

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