I wrote about the October-almost-November Feeling here in this blog space. It was a few years after Gordon died and first posted it last year. It references the “anniversary reaction/grief” as it is commonly known.
This year it’s a bit more noticeable for a couple of reasons I suppose.
1) It’s the anniversary when this year, the anniversary date falls on the same day of the week now as it did then. I can say,” Six years ago on this day . . . ” This anniversary seems more poignant for that reason. There is even a term for it, but I can’t remember what it is. and 2) I am losing the presence of two very dear friends –
Anniversary grief . . .
Anniversary reaction . . .
I experience it in some form or another
some years less intense,
some years more noticeable
Like this year:
There is the loss of dear friends as they move five hours away . . .
two of the people who walked with me through this journey of loss,
two people who, except for my husband and a couple other close friends,
really “know” me.
It’s not their friendship I will lose.
It’s the loss of their presence in my everyday life.
The beauty of the autumn is more bitter-sweet than usual.
So here we are again, the
I have learned to
pay attention to it
take time to remember
A red balloon for his January birthday
and a journal,
usually are part of my remembering!
How do you remember?
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