I wrote the “October-almost-November” Feeling a few years after Gordon died and first posted it last year. It references the “anniversay reaction/grief” as it is commonly known.
This year it’s a bit more noticeable for a couple reasons I suppose.
1) It’s the anniversary where I can say,” 6 years ago to the very day…” This anniversary seems more poignant for that reason. There is even a term for it, but I can’t remember what it is. and 2) I am losing the presence of two very dear friends –
Anniversary grief . . .
Anniversary reaction . . .
I experience it in some form or another
some years less intense,
some years more noticeable
Like this year:
There is the loss of dear friends as they move 5 hours away . . .
two of the people who walked with me through this journey of loss,
two people who, except for my husband and a couple other close friends,
really “know” me.
It’s not their friendship I will lose.
It’s the loss of their presence in my everyday life.
The beauty of the autumn is more bitter-sweet than usual.
Again, it’s the
I have learned to
take time to remember
A red balloon for his January birthday
and a journal,
usually are part of my remembering!
How do you remember?
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